captaincrusher:

I’m too old for the Tumblr discourse.

Everything is absolute.

There is no shades of grey. No compromise. There is no understanding or trying to see the perspective of others. Everyone else is just horrible people and you yourself is fighting for The Objective Good.

A perspective particularly damaging in regards to sexuality and gender. Sexuality and gender ISN’T EASY. It isn’t clear cut. It can never be. There’s life times of triggers and traumas depending on everyone’s cultural and generational context. It’s different for everyone and THAT IS OK.

And sometimes people do stuff that isn’t ok but ostracizing people for a spelling error they made when they were 12 isn’t healthy. Give people room to make mistakes, because you know what? You also make mistakes. And you will make more of them. 

That is life.

Creating an environment where people are terrified of making mistakes, or asking questions, which equals LEARNING, isn’t healthy at all. It’s the opposite. A person that feels like making a mistake is the end of the world, and is never allowed to forget it, stagnates in their personal development.

Give people some damn room to grow.